Dear God, it's me Karen,
I feel like I bit off more than I can chew, taking two math classes at once. Either way it would have been two classes at the same time, but I might have paired it better if only one class was a math class, and they weren't both 15 weeks long. The next 15 weeks are going to be stressful.
The thing is, I know I can handle it. I'm scared I can't, but that's how I am. I never give myself credit.
What I don't know is if I'll survive this term with a perfect 4.0. I'm having to let go of some impossible standards. There are only so many times I can work a problem before I give up and admit defeat. Defeat isn't the end of the world. It only feels like it is. Defeat simply means I need a little help and that's ok. It has to be. I'm not perfect.
I'm not perfect.
Which the insane part is I long ago accepted I'm not perfect, and yet I hold myself to the standard of perfection when it comes to my academics. I know it's because I know I'm capable of great things. But I'm still only human. As much as I hate to admit it, I'm human and I make mistakes. Or I simply don't understand everything with perfect clarity. And that's ok. The standard I hold myself to is an impossible standard and that standard is not ok.
I repeat, mostly to myself because I'm the one not listening, holding myself to a standard of perfection is not ok. It's not healthy. It has me obsessing over every miserable point loss, and spending hours reviewing what I already know because I'm afraid I'll forget something come test time.
I can't do this to myself. I'm fighting a hard enough battle as it is, why do I insist on purposely making it worse?
I need to stop.
So what if I get a B? That's still above average. It's a passing grade. It's more than acceptable to any rational human being.
My perfect 4.0 won't last forever. At least it'll be better if it's because I'm not perfect, verses not doing the work. I'm putting in the effort. It shows. I'm getting the vast majority of the material even. I'm just... tired? Not perfect. And in my mental and physical exhaustion I make mistakes,
I might even pull off an A in both class. All this stress over my GPA might be for naught. Either way, I need to just let it go. Accept what is and let go of what can't be.
I just. This is hard for me.
All I am right now is a student. I don't have a job to excel in. I have motherhood, of course, but that isn't all I am. School is what is taking me away from my kids so I at least need to make the best of it. Be the best at it. No. Just do my best.
I need to do my best and accept that no one's best is perfection. No one is perfect. I need to accept I'm certainly not the exception.